Sunday, 20 February 2011

It's the small things

One whole week has passed by of his three week absence. I've worked more hours in the last eight days than I've had to do in years. I'm too tired to feel horny and I doubt I could lift a flogger if my life depended on it tonight.

Despite this my sub is sulking because we've not played recently. His main fetish is being put into bondage or sleepsacks and left to stew, or teased and left sexually frustrated.
For some reason he can't seem to see past his own needs, no matter how I explain it to him.

It's different for my sub side, it's irrlevant how tired I am, if he wants to play, we do. For me to Top someone or indulge in a session with my sub, it has to be when I want to, not when they do.
I never play with a sub when not in the right frame of mind or really tired, and most definitely not when angry.

We've a week away together next month, I'm hoping this will help re-establish the bond we have. I've told my subby he's spending the week tied to a tree, wearing nothing but a hood and a strait jacket, then then midges can have their way.
Of course I'd never really do such a thing..........or would I?

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."


Pygar said...

I hope that week together comes soon. Perhaps you could arrange a little something in between so he doesn't feel too distant. Sometimes being ignored - or feeling that one is - can feel the cruellest of punishments.

You are right though that one should not try to Dom when feeling too tired or angry.

P xx

DanesWood said...

We have spent some vanilla time together and yesterday he was with me all day because we went to the BBB.
I try to make him feel wanted and cared for, but he has to understand that when I'm working as many hours as I have lately that I have little enough time for me, never mind him.