Monday 28 November 2011

Ahhh The Domly Ego

I played on Thursday, still have the bruises from it too.
I don't often play casually, but quite frankly I was frustrated, horny and needed to feel my sub side.
I arranged to play with someone I've known online for almost 2 years and through conversation decided he would be a safe and sane Top, although not suitable as my Dom.
Being inspected like a piece of meat, having him insert fingers to check if I'm wet from anticipation, not my thing at all, but as I'd agreed to submit to his wishes for the day, I complied.
I was caned for being late picking him up from the station, flogged some and then he began working on making my pussy as wet as possible, flooding he said.
The aim was to try and fist me, as I'm rather tight it was something I advised him would be unlikely.
I was correct.
Today is Monday and I'm still as sore as hell from his attempts to stretch me.
I'm very good at giving feedback whilst playing. I'll ouch and wriggle a bit if it hurts, but will always put myself back into position ready for more.
If I say it f'ing hurts and not in a good way, I expect that to be heard, not told it'll get better and start to feel good soon.
No it didn't.
I'm experienced enough to know the difference between good and bad pain.
His ego I think, he's trained quite a few subs/slaves over the years apparently and seems to have a set pattern of how he achieves his aims, which is fine, but you need to be flexible and I don't believe he was prepared to change his plans to fit me.
Teach me to play casually. I suspect it'll be a long time before I agree to that with someone I've not played with before.
I so need a Dom of my own to train.
Someone to grow with.
To learn about each other and how to please the other.


"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."
DanesWood

5 comments:

K said...

"I so need a Dom of my own to train. Someone to grow with. To learn about each other and how to please the other. " that is wonderful - being able to name what it is you need and making no apologies for it. I believe there is something very simple and profound about that..

Pygar said...

"... he's trained quite a few subs/slaves over the years apparently and seems to have a set pattern of how he achieves his aims, which is fine ..."

I don't think it is fine actually. Something that works well with one sub will not work well with another. Everybody is different. A thoughtful Master will take account of that.

Regarding the fisting - that was just crass. I have another sub friend who has fisting on her list of hard limits because of an experience similar to the one you describe. However when we were playing I had four fingers in her and she was enjoying herself. It was clear we could have gone further and I am sure she could experience fisting if it was with someone who was taking account of her body rather than just his own preconceptions.

I'm amused at you wanting to have a Dom of your own to "train"! LOL

I believe you are right though that the aim should be, "To learn about each other and how to please the other."

DanesWood said...

He got 4 fingers inside me, but I just couldn't relax.

We did have some laughs, but not listening to what I was telling him was a mistake.

I've started to write up the experience for him, but it's proving rather difficult.

You know me Pygar, so if you know a single Dom open minded enough to want to benefit from my experience, please point them in my direction lol

Pygar said...

Well DW - reading your more recent post you seem to have found a nice Dom all on your own without my help!

But if you know of a friendly sub wanting to benefit from my experience then please point them in my direction LOLOL

;)

Pygar said...

Well DW - reading your more recent post you seem to have found a nice Dom all on your own without my help!

But if you know of a friendly sub wanting to benefit from my experience then please point them in my direction LOLOL

;)

Pxx