Friday, 12 August 2011

Words of Wisdom?

I got rather annoyed yesterday.
I've always had to look out for myself, I've always been the one who sorted other people's problems. The person others came to for advice knowing I'd always have something useful to offer.
So why yesterday did one of my closest friends lecture me and talk to me like some broken doll?
It's as though since Sophia died some people seem to think I'm incapable of rational decisions when it comes to meeting new men.
The fact I've met several for lunch or dinner and not taken things further doesn't seem to count apparently. My friend thinks I'm looking through rose tinted glasses and not seeing their faults. I'm just jumping at any offer I get, is the impression she seems to have when actually it's the opposite.
It's ironic really as her life has been such a mess until I introduced her to her current Dom. Even they've been through some very rough patches, but now everything seems to be bobbing along smoothly she seems to think that makes her some sort of expert on relationships. It wasn't me sitting in the car with a hose on the exhaust calling a friend as a cry for help just 18 months was her calling me.
I'm just a different person than she is, it's not that I don't see faults, because I do, it's just that I don't necessarily see them as a problem, everyone is human after all.
I don't expect France to be perfect, but he's open and honest with me as I am with him. We accept each other for who we are and see so much good in the other we think we can work around the faults.
Of course only time will tell how things will go, but we're not stupid. It may not work out when we do get to meet, but we need to give it a chance. He's a good person and deserves the opportunity and I deserve someone good in my life.

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."


Anonymous said...

When people "mean well" but fail to give us the benefit of the doubt, or God forbid, actually encourage us to follow our gut, it is frustrating and sometimes lonely. Mostly because it's not like we know how things will turn out. A little support would be nice, etc. For what it's worth, sounds to me like you know what you are doing.

DanesWood said...

Thank you K.

I'm well aware there are risks, but unless we take calculated ones we'd stagnate.

I may crash and burn, but I'll not regret taking a chance on him.

After posting earlier he told me that he can't stand the waiting, it's wearing him down and he's going to do his best to come see me in October which is at least a couple of months earlier than we expected.