Kinky Sex V D/s

Just over a week ago I met someone at a friends BBQ. There was a huge spark of attraction between us and he sent me a message on the BDSM website we use to say hello.

It transpires we're from the same town and he lives about a mile from my mother and we probably met when I lived there, we certainly have lots of people in common.

We've flirted and teased each other all week, although we agreed it would not go beyond that in the beginning, after a few days we both realised there was definitely a sexual attraction that felt quite strong.

Interestingly though no D/s, perhaps some S&M if we did get together, but I suspect it would be just kinky sex.

This last couple of days as much as I've enjoyed talking to him and still think there's a sexual attraction it's lost most of it's appeal.

The more I've thought about it, the more I've felt drawn towards my Domly one. Oh he'd probably not mind if I fucked the other guy, but he means so much more to me than a kinky shag, so why bother?

I'm a very lucky woman to have a Dom who is so understanding and whom I know will give me so much more.

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."
DanesWood

Choices

People are so judgemental.
I can't help but be disappointed sometimes.
My Domly one doesn't have much experience in a full on D/s relationship, his previous subs have mostly been interested in kinky sex apparently.
He's made a couple of faux pas when talking to friends of mine in a chat room.
He wasn't to know they're so uptight and him jokingly referring to me possibly being fisted by a female sub I'm friendly with would offend. Not the sub in question, but my closest female friend.
I wonder, how do they expect anyone to just "know" how they should behave. What is ok protocol wise and what isn't.
He asked my friend to test out some magnets known as nipple killers on me. He also said he'd like to supervise on webcam. She found that offensive as he'd not asked her Dom if it was ok and she refused saying it was play and she doesn't play on cam, or with anyone other than her Dom.
Funny then that a few months previously I helped her pull her breasts through some metal rings and take photos for her Dom to help with an idea he'd had.
At the time I was Matthew's sub, nobody thought it was necessary to ask him if it was ok for me to help her. It certainly never crossed my mind, because as I was concerned it was one friend helping another.
Am I wrong in thinking there's no difference between my helping her and her helping me? My Domly one wasn't asking her to play, just help me test the magnets as I wasn't keen on trying them alone and of course at the moment he's too far away.
My friend has taken a deep dislike to the Domly one because of this and I can't help thinking it's pathetic. I thought I knew her better than this.
She knows he's learning and he really is. He's always said that reality is different to theory and he's finding out that sometimes he has to adjust his thinking to get the result he wants.
Perhaps there should be a Dom school. We could send them all away for a 6 month intensive course. Teach them all to think the same and the same protocol then there'd be no misunderstandings like this.......but then I'd not have my Domly one, I'd have a clone.........and I like him the way he is, warts and all.
Currently my friend and I are not talking, not solely because of this, but it is a big part of it. Maybe we'll resolve things at some point, but I don't know.
She's changed a lot this last year and seems to forget all the mistakes both she and her Dom have made during the time I've known them.
He's lied to her and cheated on her.
She's made poor choices of Dom in the past, yet criticises my choices and said she's not prepared to watch me make yet another mistake.
I wasn't aware that friends did that, after all I could've chosen not to listen to her sobbing down the phone when he cheated on her, when previous online relationships have ended for various reasons.
I definitely didn't have to listen to her when she was sat in a car with a hosepipe attached to the exhaust and she was going to commit suicide just 2 months after my Sophia.
Friendship is a choice, but a true friend doesn't just choose the good times to be around.


"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."
DanesWood

Remote Control

Feeling tired today. Seems all I've done is work, and very little time to myself.

Things have progressed somewhat with the Domly one. I received some hate mail a few days ago to one of my profiles. It's quite obviously from someone I know as they called me by my real name, they also made reference to Sophia's suicide.

Its not the first I've had, it probably won't be the last either. I've a suspicion it's a female sub who took a dislike to me several years ago, but I'm not sure.

I was a little upset, I try not to let such nastiness get to me, but it's not always possible, especially as it was so close to the anniversary of meeting Mark/Sophia.

The Domly one bless him, stepped in immediately and requested access to my account. To protect me from such unnecessary stress he's going to skim my messages and delete any that would upset me.

He doesn't need to do it, but it's a lovely feeling that he wants to do this for me. He sees it as a small thing he can do as we're so far apart, to make my life a little better.

We're aiming to spend some time together at the end of November, if I can get some time off work to visit him in France. I can't wait, I think if we're not able to get together soon one of us is going to explode with frustration.

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."
DanesWood

A Date To Remember

The 6th of September, this is the 3rd anniversary of meeting Mark/Sophia, what should have been our second wedding anniversary.

Instead of us being together to celebrate I'm here alone to mourn.

Life is slowly moving on, I've much to be thankful for and a new man in my life who cares about me, as I do him.

I've some wonderful friends who share wonderful memories with me of Sophia and slowly I feel myself putting that part of my life away.

I'll never stop loving her.

I'll never forget her, but she's no longer with me and nothing can ever bring her back.

Each day is a small step on the journey of my new life. I've made some mistakes, but then don't we all.

I've wept oceans of tears.

I've laughed till my sides hurt reminiscing about our escapades.

Stumble at times I may, but I still move irrevocably forward, as it should be.

Three years ago I met a purple latex gladiator who changed my life and taught me how love can be between two people and gave me the most intense D/s connection I've experienced so far.

Today is a special day for memories, but with the help of my Domly one I hope to create many new one to join them.

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign, mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."
DanesWood